Hey Doc,

I’ve been a follower of your work for over three years. I’ve memorized “The System” and keep up with your weekly articles, and I even watch old Cary Grant movies. I can’t tell you what a huge difference your words have made for me both with women and in everyday life. This stuff is golden, Doc.

I recently graduated from college and took a job in another city. I was asked by a female friend to live with her and another female friend, Rhia, who I only met a couple times before. Since I didn’t know anyone in the city, I agreed. Rhia and I hit it off right away, and my use of your principles has kept her Interest Level rising for the past few months.

I reveal information about myself to Rhia in small doses. I try and steer the conversation to her mostly and to ask the right questions. She recently said, “I feel like you know a lot about me and I know nothing about you.” She regularly tries to ask me personal questions, but I stick to “The System” and reply with witty comments, playful jokes, or my best Cary Grant impression. (more…)

by Ask Rob! The Advice General www.advicegeneral.com

Hey Rob,

Ok I feel kinda silly doing this but I have no other choice.

I am 20 years old and for some odd and weird reason I have fallen for a younger guy, (he will turn 18 in Nov.) that goes to my church. I am the pastor’s daughter.

Now, I’m not sure if it’s his age, past, or because I’m the pastor’s daughter but he has me so confused. We’ve spent a whole lot of time together since April and our friendship has grown. We haven’t been on any dates, the only time we have been able to talk is at church and we do write to each other constantly.

I started liking him first and then I could tell that he liked me too. He finally told me he likes me and our friendship or relationship… whatever you can call it has been great for the most part. We have had some misunderstandings but we’ve gone past them mostly because I was the one to bring them up. He has clearly told me that I have “control of the deck” I am always leading the conversations and he pretty much just goes from there… he doesn’t open up to me at all even though I’ve made the effort to open up to him. His age doesn’t bother me but his actions do. (more…)

WOMEN DON’T LIE – MEN DON’T LISTEN
Success Coach – Doc Love

“Can’t we just be friends?”

“I don’t kiss on the first date.”

“I need someone who is more exciting.”

“Did I tell you about my present lover?”

“I think you’re a nice person, but…”

If you have heard any of these lines, you’re in luck because I have the medicine to cure your case of Confusion-itis. You are privileged to be reading the only romantic love column in America that comes from a male perspective. (more…)

WOMEN DON’T LIE – MEN DON’T LISTEN

Success Coach – Doc Love
Guys, are you dating someone special and you don’t want to lose her like all the others? Are you getting bad vibes because your girlfriend of six months only gets migraines when you try to kiss her goodnight at her doorstep? Does it bother you that your wife is meeting too many perverts in chat rooms on the Internet?

And to you Moms: Do you have a good son or nephew with a big heart and a big job but he is an idiot with women? Is your overgrown baby on his third divorce and hasn’t a clue? Do half of your grandkids live in another state with bikers, drinking Coors instead of milk?

If these apply to you, you’re in luck, because there is a new sheriff in town. (more…)

Speed Dating - Men, Your Time Starts Now! by Justin Parfitt
When I describe the speed dating concept people almost always assume that men are lining up in droves to participate. It’s a no-brainer: what single guy wouldn’t want to put their best foot forward with ten single girls in one night? They don’t have to pluck up the courage to approach them, they know they’re single and looking, they know there’s no boyfriend to worry about, they don’t have to shell out for drinks and there’s no rejection “ you only find out if someone is interested in you if you express an interest in them! It seems like the perfect way to meet people. Forget all those nights heading to bars and clubs, spending a fortune on drinks and cover charges - Cut to the chase!

Some people claim that 8 minutes isn’t enough time to really get to know anyone. And of course they’re right. It can take years to really know someone and understand what makes them tick. However, we all know that it only takes a few seconds to know whether you find someone physically attractive, and only a few minutes more to know whether you’d like to see that person again. So in 8 minutes you can work out if you’re physically attracted to a girl. It’s enough time to find out whether the conversation flows or if things are bit strained. It’s enough time to find out if you share similar interests or a sense of humour. What more do you need for a follow on date? And does anyone seriously believe that you get to know someone better through a brief encounter at a bar?

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Singles Vacations Are The Way To Go
Peter Portero

If you are looking for the perfect way to have fun, relax, and meet new people you might want to consider “singles travel.” This type of travel is created especially with single people in mind. Not only will you be able to have your pick of other vacationing singles, but you won’t have to watch married couples smooching all week.

Many vacation packages or cruise ships “penalize” the single traveler by making them pay more than half of what a couple would pay. For example, a room on a cruise ship might be $200 per night for a couple. For a single person, however, the rate isn’t halved to $100. Instead, a solo traveler often has to pay $150 or so! The same is often true of hotel rooms. (more…)

Before the advent of the internet, long-distance relationships were rare. Most people met their mates in school, through a friend or neighbor, at a party or in a bar. In today=s world, it is not unusual for men and women to connect online who live hundreds and even thousands of miles apart.

She lives in Connecticut, he lives in Idaho or she lives in England and he lives in Texas. They exchange emails for awhile, then to letters, photos and phone calls. Then finally expensive airline tickets are purchased and they meet! They like each other’s looks, there is a great deal of chemistry, they spend several days or a week
together. They have fun, they communicate well, sex is great! (more…)

I have always been an observer of my friends’ and acquaintances’ behavior, especially relating to relationships, which is one of the reasons I became a psychotherapist. I was especially interested in why so many relationships are unhappy. During the time I owned and operated a face-to-face dating service and was privy to personal histories of a number of men and women, I formulated what I call “The Path of Least Resistance”: people often do not consciously choose a mate and instead drift into committed relationships with a partner who chooses them. The partner pursues, is persistent and has an assertive personality - insensitive to whether their feeling are reciprocated - as long as the relaltionship is maintained.

The “love object” is passive in relationships though not in life in general and will accept the relationship as long as the pursuer is not physically unattractive to him or her. (more…)

Those who do not remember the past are condemned to repeat it. George Santayana

“Why do I always wind up with the wrong person? I want someone who is kind, loving, reliable and open. Yet my relationships are always with men who are angry, hostile, emotionally unavailable and cannot keep a job.”

“I want a woman who is emotionally stable and independent, but I always wind up with women who are overly dramatic, tend to hysteria and depend on me to make their decisions.”

These are common problems brought to me by clients. They blame bad luck, coincidence or accident for winding up with the exact opposite of the type of person they say they prefer in a relationship.

One very attractive female marketing manager in her mid thirties agonized - “If I went to a party and there were fifty men in the room - and 49 were college graduates who were business or professional men - and the 50th was a high-school
dropout with a felony police record - number 50 and I would somehow find each other.” (more…)

When starting a new relationship, many women (and men as well) tend to overlook some behaviors in their new partner that do not bode well for the future. Then, down the road, comes the exclamation ‘If I had only known…’. As a Psychotherapist who has worked with mostly women and a few men in the field of Domestic Violence, during counseling sessions we can always trace back unpleasant and also dangerous character traits to the very start of the relationship.

Here are some ‘Red Flags’ to watch out for in a new partner. (more…)